Caveat: These are my opinions, and my opinions only. Please seek help from friends in your search for a therapist.
I was very hesitant to go see a therapist for the first time. I didn't want to have to admit that things were so bad that I needed professional help. I thought that I ought to be able to cope on my own. After all, I had made it through the abuse itself without telling anyone, so I didn't really see how telling someone years after the fact would make any difference at all.
Well, I don't know how it works; all I know is that it does work ... as long as you are working with the right therapist. Finding the right therapist may or may not be an easy thing to do. My first therapist was recommended to me by a friend who was dealing with similar issues; she was great. I moved to a new town. I had to find a new therapist. I was referred to someone by a respected researcher in the field of childhood sexual abuse, so I assumed that it had to be the "right" fit.
It was not a good fit at all. Yet, I did not trust myself enough to make that judgment, so I worked with someone who was not a good fit for me for over two years. I finally found the courage to leave that relationship. I struggled to find yet another therapist. I believe that God led me to my current therapist; she is such a wonderful fit for what I need.
For me, the two therapists who were a good fit were both practicing in pastoral counseling centers, and the one who was not a good fit was in a more traditional practice. That is not to say that traditional therapy is not right for you. I simply would encourage you to consider pastoral counseling. It is not necessarily faith-based counseling; it is an environment in which you can integrate your own spiritual beliefs and questions into your healing journey. It is more than talking to your pastor. I have two links: the Center for Pastoral Counseling (with offices in Northern Virginia and DC) and the Samaritan Institute (with locations throughout the US). I have worked with counselors at each of these organizations and I recommend them to you highly and without reservation.